Not running in such circles, I was not aware of the term complementarianism as used by Fundamentalists. It was just the day before yesterday that I came across it thanks to Bruce Gerencser of "The World According to Bruce weblog":
Well, today I came across an article,by Bob Allen, 06-27-08, explaining the position of one Bruce Ware, who is a professor of Christian theology at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky, U.S.
Bruce Ware believes wrongly that in all cases it is the man that must lead the woman. He bases this on his interpretation of scripture going back to the Garden of Eden.
Well, here's the truth. There are marriages where the woman tells the man that he better get on and stay on the strait and narrow. If she means that he better be Christlike where she is being more Christlike than he is, he better do what she's telling him. He better follow her lead and example. That's just how it is.
The problem with Bruce Ware's position is ego and the desire to control regardless of whose position is the more righteous.
In the proper marriage, both spouses will function as one flesh. They will automatically look to each other to encourage one another to get on and to remain on the strait and narrow. Each will readily accept the truth spoken by the other and will willingly and readily change direction for righteousness' sake.
All men are not closer to God than are all women. All women are not closer to God than are all men. It varies, and can change with the circumstances and situation. The most important thing is open, honest, and direct communication. If both spouses keep in mind the New Commandment, they will always be able to see their way clear together as one.
They are equal and they are not. They are one and they are differentiated. There is nothing wrong with that aspect of complementarianism. The problem is when the wrongheaded male insists on having things his way when it is his wife who has the better grasp on the message Jesus brought to the world.
There are some really moral (bright) women in the world, and a husband should consider himself fortunate and not threatened to have one for his wife.