With all due respect, I went through the entire process described but finally without the outside help of the type Daniela Sieff mentioned. I did it spiritually: God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.
Secondly, it is not true that the fear and pain will necessarily always remain. Mine is completely gone.
I attribute that to that I didn't rely solely on the secular mental-health-care system but went well beyond it.
The greatest part of my healing was understanding and forgiveness. Frankly, it all came down to love.