I know Solomon was not the wisest man ever. However, some of his statements are pithy.
"He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends." (Proverbs 17:9)
"The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with." (Proverbs 17:14)
It's very difficult for people to end up understanding each other. There are so many forces arrayed against each and all.
. It was clear and cold. The roof froze. When it was doing that, it banged so hard that it startled me. The walls too banged, even down at the floor level. No one was home around me except for the people directly below. I thought they might be banging on the walls – something that has happened repeatedly with a number of the various people who have come and gone from that apartment. I asked the young man, and he was adamant that they weren't doing it. Several of the ways he expressed himself though led me falsely to conclude that he might be up to no good about it all; so the pattern of those who had lived there before in conjunction with a brand new phenomenon in this apartment for me (that of a deep-freezing roof), was misleading.
I was compelled to apologize to him after I realized what was really going on. I repented and am desirous to atone.
At the same time, I don't want to become less discerning but more. I don't want to fail to speak out about those who really are beating on people and doing all the rest of evil.
I want people to be able to confide in me such that I don't make matters worse but truly better (meaning what's ultimately best; what God wants). I want that spirit to spread throughout the world and humanity.